Lessons on marriage!

Marriage lessons from Kenya

When I was in Nairobi recently, I learnt a few lessons from the Kenyans. The first lesson was that it is not enough to build a house, because someone else will do anything possible to grab it from you including your life. So they not only invest in perimeter was with barbed mesh but they also install an electric fence and guard! Unfortunately, due to power outages and human error, security is not always tight!

Second lesson was that a padlock on your door is not enough to keep out burglars, thanks to the increasing number of blacksmiths, any key can be duplicated. So some people add a backup called a deadlock. I wish I draw a correlation between the above security scenarios and marriage:

So you come across this gorgeous girl, intone your charm, propose marriage to her and walk down the aisle. But then there is some big snag; there’s no guarantee that what attracted you to her, may not attract other men. 

In fact, it appears that some unscrupulous characters prey on married women because of “guaranteed security”! I know of some men who insist that their wives stay at home for fear that when they go to work they could fall prey! In so doing, they end up infringing on the rights of the women they claim to love so much, while themselves are entirely exposed to the insecurity in the world.

Crazy world, crazy people; 9/11, the united state’s high security was beaten and the twin towers were bombed; and recently a young man called Edward Snowden shocked the world revealing that the US  itself , has been tapping into online communication to everyone in the world. 

Back home in Uganda, with phone tapping being legalized, secretly someone’s listening into those midnight whispers! Hhhhm, and if all this can be helping in the world, what assurance can anyone have that someone does not have a “spare key” to their loved one?

Marriage is said to be built on love as the security key, but love isn’t an island; Marriage secrets are said to be stored in the heart, but the heart can be broken,: Faithfulness is a lock made in Japan; but Chinese have learnt to make counterfeits; Trust is a good option in marriage; but trust is blind; Some fools manufactured HIV as a Scare; other fools came up with condoms as a shield; Here is the ultimate deadlock in marriage –the fear of God. The bible says that if the lord does not protect the house hold, the efforts of the guards are in vain. God is the author of marriage, and in him is derived the ultimate deadlock for the security of any marriage. Call upon him, let him lead the way and you marriage will have guaranteed dividends and lifetime security.

By Deo Tumusiime, A communication consultant, New Vision Tuesday, November 26, 2013