The laws of love

Balance; the first law of love

There is no pure formula for a love relationship. Every relationship will have its own unique mix and balance of motives and style of love. A balance in love styles involves an awareness of emotions and needs and a commitment to learning how best to express and fulfill them in order to express one’s deepest appreciation and affection for the other.

Elements for each style of love serve a helpful purpose. Romantic love idealizes the other, affirming each other’s strengths. Mutual dependency reminds each other of the commitment to fulfill the other’s needs. Friendships love ensures an enduring bond on which love may grow. Egoistic love suggests a pride in knowing that each belongs to the other. Altruistic concern offers an active, caring ingredient to a relationship. However, when a couple’s relationship is stuck in only one or two styles of love the relationship becomes unbalanced and real needs which are met by the other styles of love go unfulfilled.

A Love So Sweet!

A “love so sweet”, the desire of man!

Gone are days when we used to love with our hearts, care for the loved ones as though caring for a precious stone which would break any time. There are days when I thought love was the best thing on earth and the best treasure that God ever gave to man. When I look at my grandparents, I just keep on wondering how far they have come and how they trekked together through the thick and thin times, for they never stopped looking lovingly at one another or ever caring for each other.

A “love so sweet” it was when I was with him feeling like it’s the end of it all and believing that my heart had found the best of its kind; a love full of comfort, peace, joy, happiness, laughter, and   most of all love. That sweet love that he blessed my life with made to believe that I had earned my precious gift from the heavens. There are times we argued like any lovers do but this too never tore us apart. My life, changed for the better with his love.

THE FIVE LOVE ACTS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE

Love isn’t simply a talk but action; I feel we should drive through some activities that can revive and bring to life our relationships, particularly the marriages. The following five acts of love that will surely rock your marriage!  If you and your spouse will implement them into your marriage you will always remember this article!

Normally, when people have just got married they simply believe that their love is true and their love will last.  But because we see many suffering divorce, this belief is definitely not enough to keep the marriage healthy and ongoing. I don’t know how you started off in your marriage, happily, sadly, thriving, or stumbling through the gate, every couple needs to learn these acts of love if they want to remain happy.

The first act:  Having fun together

When is the last time you just went out together and had fun? Been a while hasn’t it. Going out to have fun is done by many, before they get married, and as soon as they marry, they forget it. Some people give excuses for this such as children, money, time .etc. do not allow these factors to keep you from having fun together! Find a day in a week or a month for having fun with your spouse. Make no excuses to miss. Even if you got a conflict, ignore it for the sake of your outing.  You can discuss the issues calmly when you return home and not on that day. Having fun brought you together, so doing it keeps you going.

THE GENUINE LOVE COMMITMENT IN MARRIAGES

The love you promise to your spouse should be genuine

Commitment to love: many couples promise their undying love at the altar and yet in a few years their love turns sour. Where does the promise of affection, excitement, happiness and romance go? When we hear or see divorce taking place, we understand that the promises were inadequate.

Have you seen someone clinging on another claiming that they love them? There is real confusion as to how to distinguish erotic infatuation from genuine lasting love. 

A lot of confusion originates in the learning of faulty attitudes. Many people confuse sex with love. Friend, the two are different. To this kind of people the main motif for marriage is sexual. If anything goes wrong they justify divorce on the ground that the passion has gone out of the relationship or when they have gotten a more sexually attractive alternative.

Family instabilities

It is every one’s desire to make a stable and peaceful family. In fact when things have fallen apart elsewhere, our utmost desire would be getting rest at home.In our dreams we imagine an ideal home, where all issues are handled amicably; when mum and dad are at peace, and in agreement in matters at home. In the same way, when such peace is present at home, the children find joy to stay.Unfortunately, this kind of environment is no more in most of our homes. Different circumstances have brought disorganization and disharmony in our homes.

This time the environment got sour because of a pregnancy that one of the most loved children begot. It is said that in this home, there was a lot of love between the parents themselves and their children too. One of the girls was much more loved by her father and on several occasion he even moved with her.

This girl attended school and her performance was always pleasing to the parents. She was in her vacation after finishing high school and waiting to join university.  In this vacation is when she got the pregnancy.

The children’s out cry for love at home

Billy Graham tells a story about a college girl who was critically injured in a car accident. As she lay dying, she said to her mother, “mom, you taught me everything I needed to know to get by in life- low to light my cigarette, how to hold my cocktail glass, how to have intercourse without getting pregnant. But you never taught me how to die. Teach me quick, mom, because I’m dying.”

The police arrested a 17 year old boy and sent him to a detention home to await trial, where he suddenly went berserk. He wrenched a piece of radiator pipe loose, broke every window he could reach, and then banged on the pipes for four hours, until when he was subdued by tear gas. Later, when questioned about his spree (action/ misbehavior), he said, “I had nothing to lose. I have already lost the only thing that could have kept me and this was my parents.”

Learn the importance of sex education to children!

The basic goals in sex education

The following six suggestions list a few goals which loving parents may hope to accomplish.

That he might learn to give and receive love: Sex education should help the child to be both loving and lovable.  Children should be able to give love and to receive love as well. A baby thrives on love of his parents and family and he learns to trust them and give love in return. When a child begins school, his circle of love expands as he makes friends and meets teachers. In preteen years he develops friends of his own age and sex. Then in adolescence he transfers his devotion to certain members of opposite sex. Wise parents will help their children progress steadily from one step to the next in this pattern of giving and receiving love.

That he may be satisfied with his sex role: One of the most important aspects of sex education is that of teaching healthy masculine and feminine identification. Sexuality involves the name given at birth, the toys played with, the clothes worn, the friends played with, the choice of courses in school, the way the roles and responsibilities in the home are viewed and last, the way in which sexual needs and urges are satisfied by responsible and committed human beings.  Parents must teach their boy to be glad he is a boy and their girl to be pleased she is a girl. This satisfaction comes through the girls’ admiration for her mother and a boy’s respect for his father. During the transitional ages especially in early adolescence a child may find difficulties accepting his or her sexual identity. Some girls feel no pride in being feminine and actually fearing to be women. Many boys especially when they are small in stature than others fear that they may not be able to real men.  The respect and love which parents show each other help teach that both men and women have a worthy place in life. Parents can also reassure their child that they love and appreciate him for what he is.