CO-WIVES RELATIONSHIPS WITH CHILDREN

What is the matter with co-wives?

A story is told of a woman who got married to someone’s husband. As usual the new woman was not welcomed, however, they stayed. The older woman produced a baby, and when one day she was away, the new woman, got the baby, covered the kid in a source pan and cooked him! What followed thereafter was disastrous!

Another story is also told of a woman who involved herself in witchcraft, to bewitch the daughter of a co-wife who had just completed her university degree studies. It is said that the bewitched girl, ran mad up to date. What is wrong with co-wives!

I have personally seen a woman going in for someone’s husband whose wedding she attended in person. Today she has a baby boy and feels very sweet about it because the former woman had not yet got any child. In addition, the husband has devised means to expel and divorce the former woman. The matters are tough.

Parents and adolescent children

Handling adolescent children

At adolescent age, parents have to change the way of dealing with their children; to renegotiate the relationship between them and their children.

Change technique: at adolescence, children reach a level of self sufficiency whereby they require less help in their studies and with their duties and fewer summons. Many parents are not ready for this and continue treating their children as if they were still small: this does not usually work.

Accept the psychological changes in an adolescent: Children at this age tend to have defiant attitude. As long as this does not get out of hand, parents should understand that this constitutes part of their psychological development and they should not over react to this behavior.

Apply caution in certain areas of hazardous behavior: Adolescence is accompanied by several risks which young people should be warned about; violent or high risk sports, drugs, sex, antisocial behavior and others.

Be prepared for emotional changes; in adolescence it is possible that children feel less close to their parents, insecure, embarrassed when with relatives, nervous with bruised self esteem… this emotional turmoil should be seen as a passing phase and parents need to exercise patience and treat their children with friendliness as opposed to bad temperateness.