Marriage lessons from Kenya
When I was in Nairobi recently, I learnt a few lessons from
the Kenyans. The first lesson was that it is not enough to build a house,
because someone else will do anything possible to grab it from you including your
life. So they not only invest in perimeter was with barbed mesh but they also
install an electric fence and guard! Unfortunately, due to power outages and
human error, security is not always tight!
Second lesson was that a padlock on your door is not enough
to keep out burglars, thanks to the increasing number of blacksmiths, any key
can be duplicated. So some people add a backup called a deadlock. I wish I draw
a correlation between the above security scenarios and marriage:
So you come across this gorgeous girl, intone your charm,
propose marriage to her and walk down the aisle. But then there is some big
snag; there’s no guarantee that what attracted you to her, may not attract
other men.
In fact, it appears that some unscrupulous characters prey on
married women because of “guaranteed security”! I know of some men who insist
that their wives stay at home for fear that when they go to work they could
fall prey! In so doing, they end up infringing on the rights of the women they
claim to love so much, while themselves are entirely exposed to the insecurity
in the world.
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