CO-WIVES RELATIONSHIPS WITH CHILDREN

What is the matter with co-wives?

A story is told of a woman who got married to someone’s husband. As usual the new woman was not welcomed, however, they stayed. The older woman produced a baby, and when one day she was away, the new woman, got the baby, covered the kid in a source pan and cooked him! What followed thereafter was disastrous!

Another story is also told of a woman who involved herself in witchcraft, to bewitch the daughter of a co-wife who had just completed her university degree studies. It is said that the bewitched girl, ran mad up to date. What is wrong with co-wives!

I have personally seen a woman going in for someone’s husband whose wedding she attended in person. Today she has a baby boy and feels very sweet about it because the former woman had not yet got any child. In addition, the husband has devised means to expel and divorce the former woman. The matters are tough.

There is another man, who married a lady in Africa and got three children with her. He later got a job in an outside country (United Kingdom) where he works as a medical doctor. When he left for UK, he found a lady from his home country and married her. From the time he got the new wife, he stopped sending any help to the former wife and children. The former woman tried to work hard to see that her children go to school and surely the first daughter has reached university now. Unfortunately, about two months ago, this mum got a terrible sickness which took her life. The children have communicated to the father for help, but he has turned on a deaf ear. 

In another home, a man married to a wife with three children, was seen on television being introduced by another woman to her parents. Imagine seeing your father getting introduced by another woman when even the clothes he put on that day were prepared at home by your mother. Of course there was no silence when he returned home. Everyone was asking him how all that came about. He kept quiet but latter picked up his clothes and left for the new wife. He is a rich man, but besides refusing to pay fees for his own children, he also stopped sending food and other basics. The mother to the children is now struggling to meet the children’s needs but it is heavy. The eldest daughter who is attending a university course has now missed to graduations; she is remaining with only one chance to be written off from the university records as a student in case she fails to get tuition fees.

In another family, the mother to the children just passed away. The man chose to marry a new lady which was of course recommendable. Her coming home, marked the beginning of misery to the children she found. In the presence of her husband, she pretended to be good, but whenever he turned his back away from home, the torture would immediately start. She happened to get children, but because she showed them much ‘’love’’ they didn’t achieve much and got wasted. However, the mistreated children went through successfully. Today they have risen to levels she had never imagined. She regrets her actions!

To summarize my article for now, I would like to appeal to my readers that the women we find in homes, also need the love you are fighting for. Where do you find peace, after snatching someone’s husband? Which security do you have, that he won’t live you for another woman too? When I turn to the side of children, it is true you didn’t produce them, but it wasn’t their making to be born. Why then do you cause them to suffer? I hate it! Would you be pleased if your own children were taken through similar torture? To the fathers, please get back to your senses and meet your responsibilities.