COURTSHIP A KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE!

There should be courtship before marriage. If you don’t do it you may face it rough.  Read today’s article to learn of the risks you should avoid and basic knowledge you need before you marry!

Signs of violence: One of the most pressing problems is violence within the couple or the family. It is common to find high levels of family abuse in all societies, even in the most wealthy and civilized. Below is a list  of violence indicators which already appear in courtship and may be clear precursors to an abusive relationship, examine this  list and check out to see  if they are present in your partner:

• §  He or she drinks alcohol regularly
• §  He or she is insensitive to wards animals or children
• §  He or she pays hurtful or humiliating things to you.
• §  He or she wants to control what you do, say, buy and so on.
• §  He or she wants to separate you to separate from your family, friends and work companions.
• §  He or she has very marked mood swings.
• §  He or she has behaved violently in the past although always with excuses.
• §  When you disagree he or she grabs and shakes you.
• §  When angry he or she throws or break things or bangs his or her fists down on the table.
• §  He or she blames other people for his or her problems.

If you have regularly witnessed in your partner any of the indicators in this list, you may run the risk of becoming a victim of house hold violence/ domestic violence. The more indicators that are present the greater the risk you run. It might be sensible to get out of this relationship in time.

For the above reasons , getting to know each other better and preparing oneself for marriage are highly important tasks for both partners.

• You both need some pre marital lecturers and talks to listen about marital problems and their possible prevention and solutions.
• You need psychological exploration of your partner through personality tests with individual sessions in which experts offer advice tailored to each of you.
• You need to learn good communication skills to avoid misunderstandings that may break out of ignorance.

Men should know that women need the following things from them: affection done through appreciation in words and action; conversation- women like talking to their husbands; trust-she needs a man who trusts her and hides nothing from her; security- women expect you to guard her against problems, poverty and meet their satisfaction; want you to participate in the home/family affairs. The home should be more important to you than job or your friend.

On the other hand, the men have the following needs from women: sexual satisfaction- whereas words of appreciation and hugs may be enough for a woman, men need closeness terminating in a sexual encounter; companionship in leisure time- men dream of women who will be interested  in their leisure and accompany them; attractive women- women should strive to remain beautiful; a tidy home- despite social changes , men always long for clean and tidy homes; admiration- a man needs his wife to admire him, recognize his achievements and the house hold tasks he does.( Dr. J.Melgosa and A. D. Melgosa; to couples enjoying a stable , life long relationship)

Hello reader, do you now realize the necessity of courtship? Do it and advise others to do it.

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