What is courtship?
Courtship is a
selection process by which some options are discarded while others are kept in
the mind, according to the qualities and circumstances perceived.
Why should there be
courtship before marriage?
There are important psychological and biological differences
between a man and a woman. In order to maintain a balanced relationship it is
useful to be aware of these differences.
Preparation for marriage does not happen by chance but
requires conscious, planned effort on the part of both partners.
The temperament of an individual has enormous effect on the
relationship between a man and a woman. To know one’s own temperament and that
of the loved one is a very contributing factor to success-fulness of a couple.
The work of getting to know each other and getting ready for
living together with someone all your life has a serious bearing on courtship
and the success of your marriage.
Character and
personality: it is very useful to observe a future spouse’s behavior and
characteristics. Her or his goodness, good temper, emotional stability, or the
strength in solving difficulties in life all represents desirable qualities. In
such a way you can avoid lack of self control, and pessimism.
Age: it matters
also. Although it is generally true that age is no barrier to love, there shouldn’t
be a large gap between future spouses. Why? Because marriage consists of a
living tandem and it becomes very difficult when gap in age is very big.
Religion: this also is a vital aspect for the success
of a marriage; religious beliefs are a set of philosophy which determines our
life-style. Those who believe and live
according to religious teachings need to find someone who shares their
convictions and practices.
Education level: this
too is important to consider. The academic achievement should be taken into
account when choosing a companion. Why? Because any viable relationship between
two people includes an important intellectual component involving conversations,
objectives, and activities, which become very difficult when there, are large
differences between partners in terms of academic levels and achievements.
Social class: it
is true that there are many happy marriages/couples from different social
classes, but it should be recognized that wide social differences may set
upsets an a relationship between two people. It is thus convenient to set one’s
sights on someone from a similar class. In fact, this usually happens naturally
through normal work and leisure environment.
An experience on
courtship
James and Joselyne are making plan for their wedding in
about nine months’ time. They have going out together for two years. The outlook
for this couple is very good: they possess similar values and ideas, a good
level of communication, and skills in conflict resolution; they are conscious
of their own and other people’s temperaments and are in relative agreement
regarding their roles in their life together as a couple. Both consider
marriage as a binding for life as opposed to a civil contract which may be
broken if they fall into difficulty situations.
To sum it all up, no issue as stated above pertaining successful
marriages can be under looked. I believe going through the procedure of
courtship yields good results. How was your experience if you are already
married? Do you think you needed to court well before getting their? Then,
advise those you can to save them from bad experiences. If you are not married
yet but have read this article, take the message seriously for you own good to
enjoy a happy marriage.
I wish you a good relationship; a happy marriage!
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