What wives wish their husbands knew about women! (part 3)

Care for your Spouse:

Human beings particularly women tolerate stresses and pressures much more easily if at least one other person knows they are enduring it.

The frustrations of raising small children and handling household duties would be much more manageable if husbands acted as it they comprehended it all. Even if a man does nothing to change the situation, simply his awareness that his wife did an admirable job today will make it easier for her to repeat the assignment tomorrow.

Instead, the opposite usually occurs. Millions of husbands will stumble into the same unforgivable questions tonight: “what did you do all day dear?” This very nature of the question implies that the ‘little woman’ has been sitting around watching television since arising at noon!

Everyone needs to know that he/she is respected for the way he or she meets responsibilities. Husbands get this emotional nurture through job promotion, pay rises, and incidental praise during the work day. Women at home get it from their husbands-if they get it at all. The most unhappy wives and mothers are often those who try to handle their fatigue and time pressure in solitude, and their men are never sure why they act so tired.

Husbands and wives should constantly guard against the scourge of over commitment. Even worthwhile and enjoyable activities become damaging when they consume the remaining free moments of the day. 

You must resolve to slow your pace; you must learn to say no gracefully; you must resist the temptation to chase after more pleasure, more hobbies and social entanglements.  Ask these three questions for any new activity that demands your time: Is it worthy of our time? What will be eliminated if it is added? What will be its impact on our family life?

Loneliness, isolation and boredom:

 Many house wives say, I don’t like myself; I have no meaningful relationships outside my home; and I am not even close to the man I love. All the young attractive wives and mothers involved in the research admitted to being emotionally isolated from all other human beings.

Feelings of self worth and acceptance can be obtained from only one source. You can’t buy them, or manufacture them. Self –esteem is only generated by what we see reflected about ourselves in the eyes of other people.

Those who are perpetually isolated, deprived of love, and caring human contact year after year, experience feelings of worthlessness, deep depression and despair. Understand this, dear readers, “Everybody must be somebody to somebody to be anybody!”

Dr. Kevin .H,etal (1988)Family matters-A guide to family life; the Stanborough press Ltd