Companionship and sex in marriage relationships

 Companionship

Dr. Henry Wilson when Bishop of Chelmsford, in his research about marriage found out that the second reason as to why women get married is companionship. It is next to love. He added that the daily living of men and women in marriage requires quality friendship. This caters for the social and emotional well being of the couple.

In the past, a good woman was classified in functional terms as: a mother, a cook, a nurse in her home; and a husband as a provider, and a hard worker.However, what we need   and expect today are the interpersonal skills and abilities to love, communicate, support and nurture each other every day and through the life crises. If we fail to do these it indicates our inability to adjust from the old style of life to the new design which yields intimacy. Let us learn to adjust, so that we get the best results out of our relationships. 

How does your partner look at you? A friend or a terrorist, tyrant, “soldier”! Search your heart, it will reveal to you who you are. And if you realize you are not good to your partner, devise means to change before you lose him or her.

Sex and sexuality: sex means many things to different people. All humans are sexual beings. To some people sex is a bore, a trauma, a pastime, a challenge, a weapon, an insult, an obsession, a duty, an ego booster, a sport, or a tranquilizer. Thus sex can be meaningful or empty.

Sexual intercourse is not making love as some people think. That physical/biological contact is not love itself. The relationship quality and attitudes make sex an act of love. With good attitude and quality relationship, sex becomes of the deepest meaning to the married. In this case it renews and refreshes the love relationship.

Sex is a language of self disclosure by which the married express their deepest feelings and awareness to one another. It speaks the language of acceptance because each is affirmed by saying in effect that you are okay.

Sex communicates a message of forgiveness and healing restoration of the marital relationship. Sex should not be forced if it is to yield good results in human relationships. It requires preparation and agreement. If it is not done the right way the effects are regrettable.

Today, we cannot simply have sex any how or with anybody. The world is sick!! Because of this we must test our health statuses so we are sure of each other. This too is not enough, we need to fully committee ourselves to those partners we have chosen out of the many. We do this to keep peace, friendship, and harmony in our homes. We also have to remember that the children we bear need our care and attention, yet sex misconduct claims our lives very early before they are grown up.

I don’t know what your culture says about marriage, and which roles were designed/ defined for both the females and males, but my advice is that you find out what is more recommended for building good marriages because some of the practices are not human friendly.