Love isn’t simply a talk but action; I feel we should drive
through some activities that can revive and bring to life our relationships,
particularly the marriages. The following five acts of love that will surely
rock your marriage! If you and your
spouse will implement them into your marriage you will always remember this
article!
Normally, when people have just got married they simply
believe that their love is true and their love will last. But because we see many suffering divorce,
this belief is definitely not enough to keep the marriage healthy and ongoing. I
don’t know how you started off in your marriage, happily, sadly, thriving, or
stumbling through the gate, every couple needs to learn these acts of love if
they want to remain happy.
The first act: Having fun together
When is the last time you just went out together and had
fun? Been a while hasn’t it. Going out to have fun is done by many, before they
get married, and as soon as they marry, they forget it. Some people give
excuses for this such as children, money, time .etc. do not allow these factors
to keep you from having fun together! Find a day in a week or a month for
having fun with your spouse. Make no excuses to miss. Even if you got a
conflict, ignore it for the sake of your outing. You can discuss the issues calmly when you
return home and not on that day. Having fun brought you together, so doing it
keeps you going.
Second love act: Joining
a small group together
Small groups provide support, encouragement, and accountability
to the married. In the groups we learn things that help encourage you to be
healthy and run out of conflict. Both parties (spouses) need to be present so
they learn what others do to bring life home. The married should learn to exchange
ideas with others and deliberate on issues of successful home making. Small church
groups do well in this.
Third love act:
Learning to resolve our conflicts
How do you settle conflicts when they arise? Some people fight,
other raise voices in quarrels, others keep quiet. What is the best way to do
it? Conflict resolution is not a natural
skill, in fact, we are more naturally prone to mess up conflict resolution! The
married need to take lessons on conflict resolution. Each needs to be willing
to listen to the other so that they come to an understanding. Sometimes it may
necessitate bringing in someone both of you trust to help you. Conflict resolution
is not about who is right or wrong but bringing back the two to harmony.
The Forth Love Act: Keeping
Fun Time Important
One of the smartest things you will ever do for your
marriage is keep fun time sacred. Nothing should ever stand in the way that
happiness to your marriage. Dr. John Gottman says that couples who are happily
married have a 5 to 1 positive experience to every – one negative experience
together. Thus you have to call off all
those things that happen to block the way of the couple’s fun time. No more no
less.
The fifth Love Act: Giving
Allowances for Each Other’s Faults
Man is not perfect. Your spouse is not perfect, neither are
you! For this reason do not expect them to do everything the way you think they
should. Relax a little bit when your spouse makes a mistake. When we create an allowance for faults, we do
not get terribly hurt. This still creates an environment for forgiveness. Have you
ever longed to be forgiven and they denied it to you? How did you feel? Because
you felt so bad, learn to forgive those who say sorry to you.
Good marriages are worked for; they do not happen through magic.
Tell your heart to take in these suggestions; life in your house will improve.
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