Marriages should be founded on a firm foundation of love

The human need to love should be seen in marriage relationships!

The many modes in which couples and families exist today may be due to wish to break out of established molds or to depart from blind tradition. However, we do not hear that generalized tendency is one of living the life of a hermit, of wanting to isolate ourselves from all others and to have no close relationships.

Very few people can be happy alone. Our most enjoyable activities lose their attraction when they cannot be shared. A couple made of a man and woman who are committed to each other, represents the ideal context in which to reach a reasonable state of happiness, within the imperfection in which we live.

Therefore, the vast majority of people, even in this time of changing values, seek the company of someone of the opposite sex and the legitimization of this relationship. The need to be united with someone who provides friendship, love, support and emotional balance is a universal phenomenon.

 Marriage is a transcendental step, which should be taken for reason. When there are very few reasons this union runs the risk of breaking up. Below we have some valid reasons for marriage that should be taken into account by both parties in order to improve the probabilities of forging a successful marriage:

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  Love: we all need to love and be loved. A healthy marriage forms the ideal context in which to bring about that love. Yet, what is the meaning of love? Classical Greek refers to it in several ways: Eros, Fileo, and Agape.

 Eros- this is the primary form of love which refers to an impulse – seeking sensual satisfaction. It is passionate love.

Fileo- is love provided by a relationship based on emotional satisfaction. It could be used to refer to the love which fosters companionship and friendship as well as the ideal love for nature, knowledge or music.

Agape- is the highest representation of love. It occurs on principle and not on impulse. It is projected in the other, even when the other person corresponds to a lesser degree. It is the infallible love of a marriage relationship and the one which fosters other types of love.

 Love is: - being patient, kind, rejoicing in the truth, long suffering, trusting, tolerating, even more important than faith, hope and long lasting.

Love is not: - being envious, conceited, proud, rude, selfish, and getting angry, being resentful and rejoicing in wrong.

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   Companionship: people come together to have a companion at their side with whom they can share the enjoyable and painful moments of their lives; someone in whom they can confide the most hidden intimacies of their souls. This company precludes loneliness as well as the sadness and emotional instability which tend to rise when one lives alone.

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   The need for self realization: marriage forms and environment in which the couple can realize themselves and grow. It fosters the right kind if self esteem, balanced habits and the most complete form of psychological well-being.

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  Sharing sexuality: sexual needs of both men and women are better satisfied within the security of marriage. Although sex is not everything, it is an important part of a marriage life that helps to maintain love and unity between both partners.

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   Sharing parenthood: although having children brings with it added responsibilities, efforts, worries and frustrations, it is one of the greatest privileges conferred on mankind. Both men and women express a feeling of satisfaction when they become parents. The growth of the family establishes prolonged emotional ties between parents and children which translate into a balanced state of mind.

As I conclude this write up this time, let me ask you a question; if you are already married, what took you into marriage? Did you surely base you decision on sound principles? Now, to those who are planning to get married, let your feelings not drive you crazy!!