Good health is of great value in lovely homes

What brings disease in lovely homes?

The desire of most homes is to have good life and living long if possible. People can do a lot to save the life of a sick individual in a home. Life has great value; we cannot give it a price; we can’t simply let it go. That is why we cry and mourn when one of us dies.

Being healthy is when we are physically well, mentally sound, and emotionally stable. If any of those areas is suffering, then we are not healthy. We can surely work towards the wellbeing of all these three, if we have willing hearts and the commitment to ourselves and those you love. I have to talk about commitment to your own self because change must start with me before I influence another person. I must have private victory over myself before I gain public victory.

Some diseases that we suffer are a result of our life styles. For example; neglecting exercises and to much sitting with out exercising.

Feeding: what do you put into your mouth as food? As much as food is very important for your survival and life processes, some foods if not taken appropriately can lead to disease. Tell me the germs that cause blood pressure both low and high! What about diabetes? Be careful about food.

There is a season for every thing in our lovely homes!

Lovers and those getting into relationships should today get to know it that there is a time for everything. This is the essence of my write-up to you my reader. I invite you to peruse through the following lines and paragraphs to draw some lessons.

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose on earth. There is a time to be born and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to uproot what was planted;

There is a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to breakdown and a time to build up; there is a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance;

A time to throw stones away and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;There is a time to gain, and a time to lose; a time to keep and a time to throw away;

There is a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;There is a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace; 

Mission statements- a directing tool to successful, lovely homes.

When coming together, all those marrying have a goal. They wish to have a very success full marriage. There is always serious promising of love to each other both secretly between the two and publicly on wedding ceremonies.

The well being of our homes can be decided by those who make the family. This requires all the parties in the home to participate. Normally families start with husband and wife and later the children come in.
Families need to sit together to look at the future and set themselves guiding rules that will govern their lives as they stay together. The participants in this then commit themselves to doing what they have agreed upon.

No one should be forced; everyone must see the necessity of this. The statement that is written down is what we call a mission statement. You can equate it to a constitution for a country. When it is made, whoever comes follows it. It is not simply damped, or violated. It is always referred to, to see the way forward.  No man adjusts alone to suit his /her selfish need and purpose.

Commitment to love a very important aspect.

Making and keeping commitments leads to very successful relationships and washes away the tears of unfaithfulness. Are you committed to your lover?
Taking a choice to start a relationship is making a commitment. All of us need to know this so that we avoid making blunders. Real relationships are rooted in the mind; someone puts the other into the heart. As the relationships grow people develop trust in one another until when they decide to take them up.
I have seen people breaking these commitments. Many a time the women have said they gave in the whole of themselves but ended up in disappointment. I don’t want to say that this is done by men only; the women also do it to men.
I would therefore like to invite you to read through the following lines of this write up so that you take care and advice others as they try to travel the journey into relationships.

Properly educated women make lovely homes!!

Consider the education of your wife. Properly educated women make lovely homes.

I have read the statement that when you educate a woman you have educated a nation. I have also come to prove it that women are as bright as men. In fact so many women are much brighter than men. I don’t know what your experience has been, but I think you have seen some girl/lady along the way of life who has exhibited great abilities in different areas of life.

I have seen women participate in leadership positions from local to international levels. They have penetrated the medical line as nurses, doctors, and pharmacists. In law they have made very good lawyers and magistrates. In education they have made wonderful teachers from kindergarten level to lecturers in colleges and Universities. In sports, women are there, they ride bicycles and motorbikes, they drive in motor races, and they play volley ball, netball, and basket ball, they run short and long races. In these ways and many others women display great abilities. They have won medals.

Education provides us with information suitable for correct living. Through education, man’s ignorance is swept away. Education opens to us doors of opportunities. With education communication is made easy at local, national and international levels. Education is the most important single key factor to family, community, national and international development. Many women are farmers, who need training so that they do the farming from an informed point of view. The farm/garden yields are much better when one applies the best practices.

Learn good lessons about the fighting of poverty in lovely homes

The impact of poverty on families

Have you ever experienced the fangs of poverty getting to your nerves? It may look to be a funny question to some people but poverty is very dangerous.  Poverty has denied us the goodies of life. 

Our friends have run away from us because we have nothing to offer. In the news papers, books, televisions and other media, we have read and seen the impact of poverty on societies. However, before a society is announced to be a poor one, it is the homes that come first. 

The feeling of living a life of a financial failure hurts and lessens our dignity. It is unbearable whenever we feel financially handicapped.  We feel miserably tormented in a situation not easy to cope with the dynamics of whatever society we live in.

Learn about children responsibilities in a lovely home

Children are the most important treasure in any home!!

In most cases, child bearing brings joy to families. Women are happy to learn that they have conceived a pregnancy for a man they love. Men who understand what it means to carry a pregnancy, do their best to provide to the needs of expectant mothers.

The aim for this is to bring up a good baby. The parents desire that their children get the best from them and work tirelessly to prepare them for a bright future. The expectation mainly is that the children appreciate these efforts. Mothers in most cases spend sleepless nights to ensure the well being of their children.

Alright, most parents fulfill their roles but do the children know what is expected of them. They may simply think that since they didn’t apply to be born, then the parent should be in for it. It is my concern today to inform you my reader that children have a duty in their homes.

Read about the most important tool that solves all problems in relationships.

DIALOGUE (POWER IN A WORD)

Have you ever seen someone denying another to speak their word?

Where? At home, community, workplace, church, meeting, government?

Okay, read this article you will tell the problem and possibly find a solution as well. 

In dialogue people use words and this is known to everyone.

A word is more than just instructions. A word constitutes two elements;-

•        Reflection
•        Action

There is no true word that has no action. An authentic word must be able to transform reality. Therefore when a true word is spoken, the world is transformed.

Action + reflection= word=work

Sacrifice of reflection= activism

Sacrifice of action =verbalism

Human existence cannot be silent and can’t be nourished by false words but only by true words with which men and women transform the world. To speak a word shouldn’t be a privilege of some few persons but a right to everyone. No one human being can say a true word alone, nor can he/she say it for another.

Dialogue is an encounter between ‘’men”, thus no one should be denied to speak their word. Denying others to speak is dehumanizing them and yourself. In dialogue people find their significance as human beings. Dialogue is a necessity for our existence.

In dialogue people create, thus it must not serve as a crafty -instrument for the domination of one person by another. If there is dialogue, then there is liberation of humankind.

Dialogue cannot exist without;-

a.       Love

b.      Humility

c.       Faith

d.      Hope

e.      Critical thinking

An important message to a couple that desires marriage (part one)

For a couple to get married there must be mutual love for each other. It shouldn’t be one party being interested and the other as if just helping. To exemplify this, allow me take you through a story of an introduction ceremony in a rich man’s home, to show you how the bride helped her boy friend get over.

James and Jane mate each other at church. They saw each other for about a year and a half. One day James suggested to Jane about marriage, but Jane didn’t accept the suggestion because she thought in her mind that some one to marry her was meant to come from a rich family as well and was to possess a recognizable profession like being a Doctor, Lawyer, or an Engineer. 

On several occasions those who were close to Jane had seen her trying to get closer to men of such professions unfortunately her desire didn’t come to pass. Over time she told those close to her that she wanted to get married. She had a good job to do and earned a fair income. She wanted independence and because she had the means, she left her parents home and went for a rental.

She filled her house with so many goodies and it really looked nice. This all she did but her joy still didn’t come. I personally heard her speak that she usually bought food in her house but failed to cook and eat it because she had no body to cook it for or to enjoy it with.

After several disappointments from those who somehow showed interest in her, she one day went back and talked to James that she was available if he still needed her. James had loved her deeply in heart. He told her that he would answer her in a short while. Yes, he did this and the results were positive.

learn a lesson that sometimes there are troubles in relationships but we don't just quit!!

WHEN TROUBLE HITS YOU DO NOT QUIT, IT IS THE SUCCESS YOU WILL CEREBRATE WHEN YOU GO THROUGH!!

Most of the time when people start marital relationships, they only anticipate the good to happen there. They think not of any negatives that can happen. However, I would like to inform you that as long as you live down here on earth, problems must come. The other point is that as long as you are more than one person in a place, because you are different from the other problems will arise. In fact someone you love may severely injure you. Such an injury cuts/pierces deeper because it comes from one you do not expect to do it.

The human heart is unpredictable, it is deceitful. Today it may say one thing and tomorrow another. Am not trying to defend our misbehavior but I feel you should understand what happens and have room in your heart to handle some of those horrible occurrences of life.

Now that you’ve known it, that problems/ challenges/ distracters must come at any point in life, I argue you to read through the following paragraphs. They will direct you into right living that each one of us needs for comfort.

When things go wrong, as sometimes they will, when the road you are trudging seems all uphill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile but you have to sigh. When care is pressing you down a bit, rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns, as every one of us sometimes learns. And many a fellow turns about, when he might have won, had he stuck to it. Don’t give up though the pace seems slow, you may succeed with another blow.

Read about a harlot (prostitute) who got married.

Some lovers are not easy, be careful about the one you choose! Allow me take you through a thrilling story of a man who married a harlot.

 A godly man, with a very good reputation in his community married a lady of ill repute, a prostitute, a harlot.  Women like this one, all lived in the same part of the town, so locating her was easy. She was a very beautiful woman. Have you seen harlots in your town? How do they look like?

This man might have even noticed her around town but possibly had no contact with her.   He fell deeply in love with her and was passionate toward her in all ways. He provided a home, possessions and gave himself completely to her, although his family and friends were horrified at his choice.

She seemed to love him too, for a while at least as usually harlots do. They settled into the daily routine of marriage and after some time passed, they were overjoyed to have a beautiful son. The second child was a girl, so they got a daughter.

With time she grew bored and restless, missing her old life style of excitement and the sexual immorality that came with it. She was used to having many men adore her. One man no longer satisfied her tastes and she longed for the expensive gifts of clothing (wool and linen), perfumes, olive oil, food, water, and other drinks, which things she received in exchange for her body.

So she sought them out and began hanging with her old friends. She began a love affair with other men. She began to stay away from home for long periods of time, eventually spending weeks and months away.

Her husband saw her ways; his wife was being unfaithful to him and had dishonored their marriage vows.  She always gave excuses but these grew thin with time.

Learn about the secret expectations ladies/women have from men/husbands.

Does someone call you her boyfriend or a husband? I wish to invite you read this article to know a woman's expectations from you. Read it over and over again for your own advantage!!

• When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
• When she's scared, protect her. 
•  When she stares at your mouth, kiss her. 
•  When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go.
• When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
•  When she ignores you, give her your attention.
•  When she pulls away, pull her back.
• When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away.
•  When she misses you, she's hurting inside.
•  When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.
•  When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful.
• When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
•  When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
• When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
•  When she steals your favorite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
• When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
• When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
• When she looks at you with doubt, bark yourself up with the truth.

IMPORTANT LESSONS YOUNG GIRLS SHOULD KNOW BEFORE GOING WITH MARRIED MEN

 Young girls, be careful with married women, do not play with their husbands. You don’t know where they’ve come from, not even the struggles they passed through to marry!

I wish to share with you real situations that I have practically seen and heard from people living  in my home country.

There was a young lady not married to any known man. However, hearsay had it that she was finding men for herself.
The lady goes to a Christian church. At the church she is fond of hugging men intimately regardless of their marital status. When she sees a male she wears a very broad smile and opens her hands to embrace him.

By the time of writing this article, four women whose husbands were continuously hugged by this lady were only waiting for an opportune time to see her play up with their husbands and then show her fire.
The unfortunate part of this matter is that this girl also threatens the women by sending them mocking phone messages that she doesn’t fear anything.
The women have already ganged up and they promise to beat her up in the public saying that it will be a memorable lesson to her and to any girls who may intend to disorganize people’s homes.

learn about the impact of lies on failure of marrital relationships

LIES LOVERS USE TO HOOK OTHERS
I have routinely heard  that marriages need lies in them. That at least a man should lie to his wife.  People put it that if you only speak the truth the woman will not accept you. So it is very common to involve in lies, hiding the real you who someone should know.
What are the common lies people tell?
In women:
 Age
Having children
Home backgrounds
Forged pregnancies
Health status
 
In men:
Having children
Home backgrounds
Financial status
Health status