learn about the impact of lies on failure of marrital relationships

LIES LOVERS USE TO HOOK OTHERS
I have routinely heard  that marriages need lies in them. That at least a man should lie to his wife.  People put it that if you only speak the truth the woman will not accept you. So it is very common to involve in lies, hiding the real you who someone should know.
What are the common lies people tell?
In women:
 Age
Having children
Home backgrounds
Forged pregnancies
Health status
 
In men:
Having children
Home backgrounds
Financial status
Health status
Age: Most of the time men prefer to marry women who are younger than them. Women are meant to look beautiful like flowers before their husbands all the time. It so happens that after delivery the women’s age tends to show very easily. So if they have interest in you, but know that their age is higher than yours, they choose to lie. They either say you are the same age or are little young than you. Some people say that age is just a number. But are you sure it has no impact on the goodness of our homes/marriages?  

Having children: Many girls get pregnancies while still young. Some time through rape, from fellow students in schools, and may be when forced by relatives into marriages. I have seen a girl whose parents passed on but the elder sister who was meant to look after her one day told her not to ask personal effects from her when she was about to report to school. She told her that she was a woman who could find her way out. So there are many who have babies but from men they never intended to be their formal husbands. They keep their babies with their parents or take them to the men’s family. When you find them and ask if they have ever had a baby, the answer is always a no!!  The same applies to men. A gentleman had hooked up with a lady whose uterus (womb) had been removed. He was only lucky that someone who knew the lady warned him.

Home back grounds: You will agree with me that human backgrounds vary. Financially, certain homes are well off, others middle class and others are indeed poor. Many people regardless of gender want to be placed with the well to do. I have seen introduction ceremonies taken to hotels, friends’ or relatives’ homes instead of the real homes due lack of presentability. Some children have hidden away from their parents at school when they come to visit them because of the financial looks. Women and men borrow clothes from friends to show that they are of a better class. Haven’t you seen guys borrowing cars to boast around? Besides that when one suggests a visit they take them to friends’ rooms or homes. One time a man lied to my workmate that he was working with the American Embassy but when she searched for the truth, she was told that they didn’t even know how he looked like. The same man showed her a home for friends he had schooled with but spoke the same language like him. The lady didn’t know that language for she belonged to a different tribe. In some cases we hide our tribes. We lie to others what our tribes are and the cultures. Do you fear to be identified with you tribe and financial status?

Forged pregnancies: women know it that men like getting babies. If they have happened to have sex before formally marrying they deceive the men. Have you seen this or heard about it? What were the results?
Financial status:  Men and women happen to display wrong pictures of them. They say they belong to certain homes, they work somewhere, their father is so and so, they have particular professions. Many ladies desire to marry a lawyer, doctor, engineer and bankers. But then, is it true that such people always make good husbands?

Health status: Lovers hide their health statuses from each other, yet these are very important. We need to know the health stand for each other to be sure of each other. Simply talking cannot prove absence or presence of disease. Medical checkups and thorough examinations give us the right health conditions of the body. HIV/AIDS, sickle cell, Leukemia are common problems.

In my personal observations, I have found it that relationships based on lies, yield conflicts when the truth happens to show up. The trust someone has had in you perishes when they prove you are a liar. What has been you observation? Can we continue with the lies or not?