Mission statements- a directing tool to successful, lovely homes.

When coming together, all those marrying have a goal. They wish to have a very success full marriage. There is always serious promising of love to each other both secretly between the two and publicly on wedding ceremonies.

The well being of our homes can be decided by those who make the family. This requires all the parties in the home to participate. Normally families start with husband and wife and later the children come in.
Families need to sit together to look at the future and set themselves guiding rules that will govern their lives as they stay together. The participants in this then commit themselves to doing what they have agreed upon.

No one should be forced; everyone must see the necessity of this. The statement that is written down is what we call a mission statement. You can equate it to a constitution for a country. When it is made, whoever comes follows it. It is not simply damped, or violated. It is always referred to, to see the way forward.  No man adjusts alone to suit his /her selfish need and purpose.
 Before you marry, you need a personal mission statement to direct your way and when you marry someone, you make it with your partner to govern your marriage.

In the book seven Habits for highly effective people, the writer Stephen R. Covey cited some roles that take priority in achieving his own mission;
•    As a Husband – my partner is the most important person in my life. Together we contribute the fruits of harmony, industry, charity and thrift.
•    As a Father – I help my children experience progressively greater joy in their lives.
•    As a Son/brother- I am frequently there for support and love.
•    As a Christian – God can count on me to keep my covenants and to serve his other children.
•    As a Neighbor – the love of God is visible through my actions toward others.
•    As a Change agent – I am a catalyst for developing high performance in large organizations.
•    As a Scholar- I learn important new things every day.
When I read his mission statement, I look at a person who by choice has taken a meaningful life style.

Now, to those who think about the end of things before they happen, a mission statement is the option for us. Our families shouldn’t be managed on crises, moods, quick fixes and instant gratifications but on correct life principles.

If there is no guide line/ mission statement, the symptoms are very evident. Whenever there comes stressful and pressuring situations; people become cynical, critical, or silent or they start yelling and overreacting. People end up in flight or fights.

The only tool that will maintain peace in a lovely home is the changeless mission statement written down before bad situations arise in which their vision and values were stated with sober minds. This is the true foundation families need to survive in love. The evaluation of what we do and correct life decisions, which give continuity, unity and harmony of families, are rooted in mission statements.

At weddings, in the presence of religious leaders or government officials for marriages, couples take vows which reveal their commitment to each other. They read these oaths on paper sometimes with a bible in the right hand or Koran to show that even God has participated in their joining. Some people have indeed valued those vows but some haven’t. I don’t know whether the separations we see come to happen because the vows taken are not authored by the two marrying people.

This is why I now suggest that besides the church or government vows to couples, the two individuals intending to marry should come up with a mission statement written with much care to direct them. Because it is they who write it, with the truest mind but no lies, the results may be much better. How do you see?

The selfishness of your partner can be seen from the way they participate and a solution can be found before it is very late. From my personal observation, it seems some people have married when they are not meant to be. This comment is so because in many homes each partner’s desires are contrary to those of the other.

Finally my reader, I want to think that I have tried to open up your mind about mission statements. Make one for yourself and commit yourself to doing what is correct, happiness will follow you.